Rakshabandhan, by its very name simply means a thread of protection and security from adversities. It is an exchange of sacred and silent blessing from both brother and sister for each other. It is a beautiful relationship where brother and sister at times cannot live WITH each other but more than that, cannot even live WITHOUT each other and this is the exact beauty of this relationship. Hope everyone are able to relate to what I am saying

But don’t you think that now a days, it seems difficult to be connected with each other If I talk in terms of distance. Sometimes siblings are away beacuse of job purpose while at other times siblings are married and have their own family commitments. But there is nothing to worry about because digitalization has shortened every distance and every one of us are now connected virtually at the convenience of our own time. Only important thing that matters a lot is that there should be no distance in our hearts for each other becasue digitalization literally cannot mend this distance.

So, Let’s talk about as to how can a relationship between a brother and sister remains nurtured? How do these siblings be disconnected with distance (In case siblings live in different cities or in different countries ) but remain connected with hearts? How can siblings help each other in times of need? Do you think that only Blood relations define relationship of a sister and a brother? Let’s talk about all these things below:

1) Always continue to remain a kid at heart or keep your CHILD alive within you: I am sure all of us gets overwhelmed when even a slight memory passes your brain regarding your nonsense fights and endless arguments with each other. I know that while reading this, you are actually thinking about those flashbacks and you are laughing deep within. See, you got the secret. As long as a child is alive within you, you can never change. I know body will grow and your mind will grow too but why to kill an innocent CHILD within you? No matter how much angry you can become on your sibling, you will calm down when you will be in your childhood flashbacks.

2) Shorten or Cut your distance between Hearts: No matter how far you are from each other in terms of distance whether in different cities or countries, always ensure that no internet or no digitalization can cut this distance but YOU. Always remain in touch with your brother or sister even if that is for 10 minutes and that too may be just once a week. Believe me, this trick will never bring assumptions in between your relationship and will leave no rooms for misunderstandings. A little frequent healthy talk is far better than longer just once a year Rakhi talk. I will suggest to try this and it is going to create wonders.

3) Keep your EGO aside: You know what, when siblings are small, they are completely unaware of “ME”, “MINE” and “MYSELF” and that is why relations in childhood are so adorable and heavenly. But when siblings grow up, with them grows their mischievous “EGO’s” which are far more detrimental to their relations. Let me tell you the best secret about this problem. Our Ego’s are part of our life but keep your ego at it’s correct place. Ego should be there to take stand of yourself and not to create partition in your relations. Never attach your sibling’s rudest of the rude talks to your heart and to yourself. Just try to give some leniency and benefit of doubt likewise we give to our own selves. Remember that anything attached to your EGO will flare things up but if nothing is attached to your EGO then everything around you will bloom because you took nothing to yourself.

4) Post Marriage Commitments: I personally find this as a major issue where difference grows and grows with time post the marriage of either or both the siblings. A beautiful trick to tackle this problem is to keep every relation at his own place because no relation can take place of another relationship. Every relation has its own place and shares a specific beauty. What I believe is that post marriage, both brother and  sister should make individual efforts to remain connected with each other no matter what the situations are in their own households. Also, Siblings should support each other with their decisions but should never take or assume any decision on behalf of each other. This will help gaining confidence and transparency in relationships. Most important of all, no siblings should ever make any comments on either of their marital households because they need to understand that now area of relationships have widened for each of them. Always be a backbone for your sibling who might not come in front but will always be with him/ her at the backend. You should advice your sibling but if they don’t agree with your advice then be happy with the decisions your sibling made and have faith in their decisions. Believe me, this kind of relationship will always be cemented with Love, sharing and caring.

5) Talk, Talk and Talk: Always be the first happy person to talk to your sibling if at any point in time the other one had forgotten to talk to you. Never think “Why always Me first” and it has a simple reason to not to think in this way because maintaining relationships is a responsibility of both and not just one. If you think that you are always making an effort to remain connected but the other one is not then the solution to this problem is not to stop trying but talking to your sibling and asking why he/ she is behaving like that way. It might be possible that your sibling is going through something and you probably had no idea. Rather assuming stuffs, be someone to reach out your sibling and asking openly as to what bothers your sibling. Based on your talks, you can later make decisions. But why to assume before fruitful talks?

6) Never weigh Rakhi Festival as a means for exchanging gifts: Your Rakhi festival is incomplete for a brother without a sister and incomplete for sister without a brother. You both complete each other in this relation. Nothing more is required here. You are sister because of your brother and you are brother because of your sister.

7) Rakhi is a relation even outside of Blood Relations: Yes, you got me right. All relations are not out of BLOOD. There are few relations which we choose on our own and believe me they are also as beautiful and adorable as blood relations. I call such relations as “Heart connected relations” (Relations which have roots to hearts). 

So what do you think? Does anyone of you has a sibling whom you have not wished “Happy Raksha Bandhan” due to the problems above? Don’t think too much. Pick up a phone and call right away. If you cannot speak on phone then text or may be send an audio recording. Believe me, you will be at peace in your heart.